Comments on: daffodils

By: Lorna

Lorna — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 19:07:00 +0000

mamala sorry about your sister. I think it’s lovely you can discuss this with C - no-one of us can explain cancer, death before it should come, and the sadness, but I love it that you don’t exclude your family from the reality and the pain of losing someone you loved.

RM - wonderful poem. the fragile angel …mmm

By: ppb

ppb — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 01:45:00 +0000

on a related topic—did you ever hear about the new england opportunity?

By: Mamala

Mamala — Mon, 24 Apr 2006 19:44:00 +0000

On our walk home from the park yesterday, we saw a beautiful purple iris bloom and C noted how pretty it was. In my attempt to keep her Aunt Sherry “alive,” I noted that her Gram and I placed purple irises from Gram’s garden at Sherry’s gravesite when I was there a few weekends ago.

Then she asked, “What’s a grave”?

I answered.

Then she asked, “How did she die”?

I answered.

Then she asked, “Was she sick and throwing up”?

It was then that I didn’t know where to proceed, not wanting her to be alarmed the next time her tummy hurts and she hurls, yet knowing that C [along with my other grandchildren] are perfectly brilliant and process all the information they get so well.

How do I explain cancer, death before it should come, the loss of a sister when I don’t even understand it?

I retreated to the old standby “she’s in heaven with Jesus” “she’s in heaven with Grandpa” “she’s in heaven with God” and by then we were home.

By: Songbird

Songbird — Mon, 24 Apr 2006 19:01:00 +0000

Wow.