18 Responses to “facebook dilemma”  

1. 1 Kelley Aug 31st, 2008 at 11:11 pm

   Oh…kind of a creepy story about UG the semi-stalker. Can you hit “Ignore” and then wait and see if he leaves you alone? My gut says that you should not enter into any dialogue with him at all. Good luck.

2. 2 heathadahlin Sep 1st, 2008 at 12:42 am

   I agree with Kelley. Not someone you want to give any attention.

3. 3 gk Sep 1st, 2008 at 5:52 am

   i recently had a stalker from a small group at Mo-Ranch from 1986. I hadn’t seen or heard or thought of this person until she showed up as a friend request with a note. My best recollection is she had serious mental problems. institutional type problems. I ignored several friend requests and then blocked her. definitely use the block function. to the stalker you become invisible. then if you get crazy you can an invisible stalker in stead of a stalkie.

4. 4 Cathy Sep 1st, 2008 at 5:57 am

   I don’t think if you click ignore, they know it.

   I have clicked ignore before.

5. 5 AEF Sep 1st, 2008 at 8:24 am

   Ignore the guy! You will feel empowered for doing it.

6. 6 Keith Sep 1st, 2008 at 9:12 am

   He may not even know he sent the request. The automatic “find all the friends in your address book” thing just carpet-bombs everybody. I’d ignore him with no explanation.

7. 7 mibi52 Sep 1st, 2008 at 9:17 am

   I’d block. This solves the problem that Keith poses (he may not know he sent to request) while not engaging him.

8. 8 reverendmother Sep 1st, 2008 at 9:39 am

   I ignored. If he sends another request I’ll block.

   He did it deliberately, since he sent a message as well—a chipper little one liner about my kids (who are in my current profile picture).

   I honestly think he is harmless at this point, but he’s annoying and unpleasant.

   And, I say with some satisfaction, unattractively bald.

9. 9 Karen Sep 1st, 2008 at 9:45 am

   I say both ignore and block. If he doesn’t get the message when you ignore him, you don’t need to even know about it. I think it’s an ongoing ego-feeding power play with him (and I remember him!)

10. 10 Pinkhammer Sep 1st, 2008 at 12:10 pm

    More power to you RM! : )

11. 11 purechristianithink Sep 1st, 2008 at 3:30 pm

    I’d say ignore–then if he doesn’t back off, block.

12. 12 Keith Sep 1st, 2008 at 4:54 pm

    I say we stomp him! Then we tattoo him! Then we hang him! And then we kill him!

13. 13 Keith Sep 1st, 2008 at 5:01 pm
    
    
14. 14 Speck Sep 1st, 2008 at 10:53 pm

    I think that you have to be friends in order to write him a message. I would definitely NOT send the message. I didn’t know that you could block. I think that would be a good idea to totally cut him off.

15. 15 jledmiston Sep 2nd, 2008 at 8:20 am

    I’m with the ignorers.

16. 16 Rachel Petty Sep 2nd, 2008 at 8:38 am

    I’m all for ignorance.
    

17. 17 Thurman Hart Sep 2nd, 2008 at 8:31 pm

    Generally, any indication that you remember him will likely be interpreted as his having been the most wonderful person ever. Ignore.

18. 18 Shabash Sep 2nd, 2008 at 10:09 pm

    Good call. If you reply, he has access to your profile for 30 days.

    OTOH, if you wrote him *why* you didn’t want to be his friend, probably a better chance he might actually apologize & ask for your forgiveness. Not that he shouldn’t have already done so anyway, but maybe the guy has been utterly clueless, in addition to being a grade a a-hole.

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